Many of us are trying to cure things from the outside in rather than the inside out. We're trying to change what we eat. Outside in. We're trying to change what we spend money on. Outside in. Practice gratitude, feel content, no need for binge spending. Inside out. Do things that bring you joy, less desire to find it in food. Filled with joy, not with sugar. Inside out.
But your brain is like a super computer! It can solve your problems. It comes up with really creative ideas. Deep inside your own brain are your complex emotions and desires that are desperate to be recognized. We're just not giving it the time and space it needs.
There are many negatives people come up with when it comes to the envelope system. Some of them may be valid-ish. However, we're not trying to be "smart" here. We're trying to form discipline, be really wise and make new habits. We're trying to modify behavior. It's like why we want you to stick to an exercise program when you're trying to get in shape. We're not going to be willy nilly, we have a plan for a reason!
Energy at night is restorative. So, we definitely need to do something relaxing and restoring. Interestingly enough, most of our evening activities don't fit that bill (we are just checking out most of the time). While we need the relaxing time at night, I find the morning time to be better for my soul and my overall mood. Morning energy is productive. That goes for you "non-morning-people" too.
Getting up early and doing what you want to do is being productive, intentional and owning your day. That's opposed to being cranky, late and reactive. It's like a present to yourself. The soft, quiet, still time in the morning is so amazing and contrasts our busy, hectic world beautifully.
Becoming debt free is more about your behavior than your knowledge. It's kind of like how you already know that you need to stop eating so much Chick Fil A. It's kind of like you already know you should be exercising. It's not about what you know, it's about what you're doing.
You're probably busy, you're stressed and you're anxious trying to do for them. You're probably weighing mom guilt and feeling stretched thin trying to do for them. But what do your kids really want? More than all you're doing "for them?" Your kids just want YOU to be happy.
The money you earn each month can either be funding your future or paying for the past. I think it’s more fun and definitely more freeing to fund the future! If you've got debt, you're paying for the past. I don't know about you, but don't want to be working out of obligation of a debt owed. I would rather my money and my hard work be for something in my future, something I want for me or for my family. Not only does that keep the dreams alive, it puts a little pep in my work step.
We've been sold the lie that we can and should be happy all the time. So then, when we're NOT happy we think we've done something wrong or, worse, we are something wrong. As in, there's something wrong with us. There's not, you're human. Sometimes things don't feel happy and that's okay. Yet, because we believe we should be happy all the time we do things like eat and drink and Netflix to avoid those negative emotions. Then guess what happens? We feel bad that we felt bad and we feel bad that we did the avoidance behavior. So now, we're feeling bad about feeling bad about feeling bad. It's a vicious cycle.
Everything in your home should follow the fork’s example. If you find a fork in the bathroom you immediately know it’s in the wrong place. And you immediately know where it’s supposed to be. In fact, everyone in your home would know the fork is out of place. If everything in your home had a place to live like that, you would find it so much easier to keep your home together and stop chasing your tail.
Yes, that urge for cupcakes, for chips, for pizza is STRONG. Resisting it seems impossible. The good news & the bad news is that there are reasons. So, when you see the donut dopamine floods your brain. Dopamine is the hormone released when you anticipate a reward. You anticipate the sweet, sugary, soft goodness of that donut. The tricky thing with dopamine is that it's stupid. Well, it's not smart at least. It thinks the reward is sustenance since that's what your brain is programmed for. So, in dopamine's mind, that donut is full of life-sustaining calories that taste way too good to be true. But you know better, don't you? You know that as soon as you eat one (or two) donuts you probably don't feel very rewarded at all.