10 Interactive Elf on the Shelf ideas

I'll take a break from my regularly scheduled coaching posts to throw these out there. We started the Elf on the Shelf five years ago without really knowing what we were getting into. These days though, we realize the kids look forward to seeing what shenanigans the elf is up to almost as much as … Continue reading 10 Interactive Elf on the Shelf ideas

Sunday planning

Happy Sunday! I hope you're having a great day! On Sunday's, I like to do alllll the planning for the week while I'm calm, relaxed and happy. Before I sit down with my hubby for our marriage meeting, I get my own things in line. Want to take a peek at my plan? Maybe it … Continue reading Sunday planning

Going solo

This weekend I checked myself into rehab. Not that kind of rehab. No, I checked myself into a hotel room where I'd spend the next 48 hours alone if I chose. I'd spend time quiet, contemplative. Mostly, I'd spend time doing what I want. I've got a line in my book that says: Moms fantasize about … Continue reading Going solo

Kiddo rituals

Routine acts like a safety net to a child where so much is constantly changing. It’s so hard being a kid. You know, having someone cook for you, change your diapers, carry you everywhere and provide for all your needs. No wait, that’s not the hard part. What’s hard is that their brains, their bodies, their grade level and their eating habits are constantly changing. It can be pretty tough for a little person. Having a routine means they have something constant, they have reassurance that some things are predictable.

Undercommunicating

This week in my planning mastermind group, we're talking about marriage meetings. Marriage meetings are something I started getting serious about this year in order to "communicate on purpose" with my spouse. It helps us talk over the good and the bad as well as get on the same page with goals, finances and schedules. … Continue reading Undercommunicating

I’m a homemaker, not a maid.

And that reality is harsh. I see many women lacking the self worth to set proper boundaries. They are showing their family love by doing everything for them. But they aren't showing themselves any love. While that seems saintly and selfless, it ends up giving society women who are unhappy, stressed, anxious, tired, sick, mean, in need of rehab or wanting a divorce. No, really. Boundaries are a tough part of adulting, especially since we've probably jacked them up to begin with. But we can change and so can they.

We’re on each other’s team

I don’t iron y’all. My best effort is trying to remove things promptly from the dryer. Chris was planning to do this when he gets home. But tomorrow is a big day for him work-wise. And he’ll be gone 5-9 at least. He probably won’t sleep tonight. So, I thought, self, how could you help … Continue reading We’re on each other’s team

5 Elements of Harmony (for women married w/ kids)

Somewhere along the road, I apparently adopted the idea that being a married, adult woman with three kids meant I wasn't allowed to do things I like to do. I know that sounds crazy and younger me needed therapy. But I bent my will so hard for everyone else, I rarely did just what I wanted to do in my late 20s and earlier 30s.