Going solo

This weekend I checked myself into rehab. Not that kind of rehab. No, I checked myself into a hotel room where I'd spend the next 48 hours alone if I chose. I'd spend time quiet, contemplative. Mostly, I'd spend time doing what I want. I've got a line in my book that says: Moms fantasize about … Continue reading Going solo

Kiddo rituals

Routine acts like a safety net to a child where so much is constantly changing. It’s so hard being a kid. You know, having someone cook for you, change your diapers, carry you everywhere and provide for all your needs. No wait, that’s not the hard part. What’s hard is that their brains, their bodies, their grade level and their eating habits are constantly changing. It can be pretty tough for a little person. Having a routine means they have something constant, they have reassurance that some things are predictable.


This week in my planning mastermind group, we're talking about marriage meetings. Marriage meetings are something I started getting serious about this year in order to "communicate on purpose" with my spouse. It helps us talk over the good and the bad as well as get on the same page with goals, finances and schedules. … Continue reading Undercommunicating

I’m a homemaker, not a maid.

And that reality is harsh. I see many women lacking the self worth to set proper boundaries. They are showing their family love by doing everything for them. But they aren't showing themselves any love. While that seems saintly and selfless, it ends up giving society women who are unhappy, stressed, anxious, tired, sick, mean, in need of rehab or wanting a divorce. No, really. Boundaries are a tough part of adulting, especially since we've probably jacked them up to begin with. But we can change and so can they.

We’re on each other’s team

I don’t iron y’all. My best effort is trying to remove things promptly from the dryer. Chris was planning to do this when he gets home. But tomorrow is a big day for him work-wise. And he’ll be gone 5-9 at least. He probably won’t sleep tonight. So, I thought, self, how could you help … Continue reading We’re on each other’s team

5 Elements of Harmony (for women married w/ kids)

Somewhere along the road, I apparently adopted the idea that being a married, adult woman with three kids meant I wasn't allowed to do things I like to do. I know that sounds crazy and younger me needed therapy. But I bent my will so hard for everyone else, I rarely did just what I wanted to do in my late 20s and earlier 30s.

Cheap & fast & awesome Father’s Day gift!

Hopefully you've already got your Father's Day gifts together! Whether you do or you don't, I've got one for you. It's Cheap. Fast. Awesome. You'll need letters that spell DAD. They can be homemade or store bought. You will need a frame. You'll need kids. Have each kid hold a letter and take their photo. … Continue reading Cheap & fast & awesome Father’s Day gift!

Birth order, real or not?

Dr. Leman wrote the Birth Order Book based on his research and experience. You can check it out at the library or grab it at Amazon.The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are Or, you know, you can check out his website drleman.com. I think it's so fun and interesting, I really geek … Continue reading Birth order, real or not?