Why not reflect on 2019? So many people are so quick to rush into 2020 without pausing to look back at what 2019 meant. Let's take a moment and list out your cherished moments, people and accomplishments from last year. I call this a gratitude assessment. Fill out this form and allow yourself to feel … Continue reading Before you set goals…
One of the first sounds of my day today was an excited screaming voice memo from a client who is now credit card debt free. I was as excited as she was and it made me pause and think... Paying off debt isn't fun for most people. Yes. Paying off debt isn't fun. Most people … Continue reading Make it fun!
Like any muscle in the body, your brain grows stronger as you use it. That’s the concept of the mental gym which suggests you treat a “brain workout” as seriously as you would a workout at the gym. That means employing the same intensity, discipline and the same process of stepping outside your comfort zone to get results. Two practical ways you can do this is to intentionally put good stuff in and to intentionally practice being quiet.
Let's flashback to November 2015. I was 8 months pregnant. I knew my husband was leaving for a year in two months. I'd accepted my fate, in my mind, with a sort of honorable stoicism. Imagine my surprise when I was in church for a sermon called "Surviving vs. Thriving." The remember the graphic from … Continue reading Lean into the hard
One of the biggest problems we face is the mental battle we have inside that I call decision anxiety. Decision anxiety involves the agonizing amount of time we spend going back and forth before we make a decision as well as the post-decision making time in which we worry if we made the right decision or, worse yet, we double back on that decision. It’s a form of self-torture we put ourselves and our brains through. And we can’t even blame others for it. It’s self-inflicted!
Put Your Big Girl Panties on will give you applicable questions, exercises, and advice from someone just like you. It will feel like a conversation at a coffee shop, filled with knowing glances and giggles. It will give you a safe space to feel the things you’re feeling while also coaching you ever closer to a better version of you. You see, one thing is absolutely 100% true. No one else is going to come along and magically save you. You are the hero of your own story. You are the one that is going to make your best life possible. You are going to show up for yourself, you are going to solve your own problems. And you’re going to feel really confident and satisfied when you do. You’re going to save yourself. Let’s go.
The river flows around the hard rock. The river is loosey-goosey. It keeps moving in the same direction, undeterred by immoveable, stubborn obstacles or objects. It finds a way. It breezes by, over, around or underneath. The river yields to the rock. The rock, on the other hand, is unmoving. It's stubborn. It's hard. It's stuck. It refuses to give. It stays put and watches the river flow right by.
Many of us are trying to cure things from the outside in rather than the inside out. We're trying to change what we eat. Outside in. We're trying to change what we spend money on. Outside in. Practice gratitude, feel content, no need for binge spending. Inside out. Do things that bring you joy, less desire to find it in food. Filled with joy, not with sugar. Inside out.
But your brain is like a super computer! It can solve your problems. It comes up with really creative ideas. Deep inside your own brain are your complex emotions and desires that are desperate to be recognized. We're just not giving it the time and space it needs.
Energy at night is restorative. So, we definitely need to do something relaxing and restoring. Interestingly enough, most of our evening activities don't fit that bill (we are just checking out most of the time). While we need the relaxing time at night, I find the morning time to be better for my soul and my overall mood. Morning energy is productive. That goes for you "non-morning-people" too.
Getting up early and doing what you want to do is being productive, intentional and owning your day. That's opposed to being cranky, late and reactive. It's like a present to yourself. The soft, quiet, still time in the morning is so amazing and contrasts our busy, hectic world beautifully.