We've been sold the lie that we can and should be happy all the time. So then, when we're NOT happy we think we've done something wrong or, worse, we are something wrong. As in, there's something wrong with us. There's not, you're human. Sometimes things don't feel happy and that's okay. Yet, because we believe we should be happy all the time we do things like eat and drink and Netflix to avoid those negative emotions. Then guess what happens? We feel bad that we felt bad and we feel bad that we did the avoidance behavior. So now, we're feeling bad about feeling bad about feeling bad. It's a vicious cycle.
Self care is often proselytized about as bubble baths and manicures. Those definitions work to a certain extent. Really, though, self care is taking care of yourself. The deep work of self care is taking care of yourself by doing the things that you fight resistance about. Between you and any goal or ideal version … Continue reading Real Self Care
We're also going to practice the idea of curiosity over criticism. If you're constantly criticizing yourself and asking bad questions, you're keeping yourself in a negative loop that will not allow you to get the results you seek. You cannot get a positive result from a negative method. If your method is negative, you will continue to produce negative results in your life. If instead, you choose to be kind, curious and compassionate with yourself, you will give yourself the space you need to answer your questions and solve your problems. So, let's look at a few more examples of questions.
I bet you read that headline like Eeyore: Yeah, it's Monday. Again. But I wrote it like Yay! It's Monday again!!! You see, I love Mondays. They're a chance to reset. They're a chance to get it right! The weekends can sometimes mean doing things that weren't on the plan we have to become the … Continue reading It’s Monday Again
The joy and satisfaction of helping other humans is awesome. It is awesome but I also believe it’s by design. Because when all that goodness is generated by generosity guess what’s likely? More generosity. More goodness. Well played God, well played.
Shame, like any other emotion is a choice.
It does take some serious mind-management to conquer it but it can be done.
Your thoughts are the initial domino that set everything, including your feelings and results, into motion.
I hope you're having a wonderful week! I know the week after DST can be challenging for many reasons, but we're almost through. MAYBE just maybe your body is beginning to pick up on the trick that was just played on it. Anyway, this post is not about saying one thing and doing it as … Continue reading Sticking to your word
Happy Friday! I hope you crushed it this week! And even if you didn't, I know you can find at least one victory that you can be proud of! I want to talk to you about the goals and resolutions you set for yourself this year. Each person reading this is at a different point … Continue reading It’s going to take time.
Yesterday I was listening to Storybrand by Donald Miller while doing some tedious spreadsheet work for business. A quote he mentioned was so good it stopped me in my tracks and I wrote in my open planner next to my laptop. “When a person can't find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.” -Viktor Frankl Isn't … Continue reading Are you distracting yourself with pleasure?