You're probably busy, you're stressed and you're anxious trying to do for them. You're probably weighing mom guilt and feeling stretched thin trying to do for them. But what do your kids really want? More than all you're doing "for them?" Your kids just want YOU to be happy.
The money you earn each month can either be funding your future or paying for the past. I think it’s more fun and definitely more freeing to fund the future! If you've got debt, you're paying for the past. I don't know about you, but don't want to be working out of obligation of a debt owed. I would rather my money and my hard work be for something in my future, something I want for me or for my family. Not only does that keep the dreams alive, it puts a little pep in my work step.
We've been sold the lie that we can and should be happy all the time. So then, when we're NOT happy we think we've done something wrong or, worse, we are something wrong. As in, there's something wrong with us. There's not, you're human. Sometimes things don't feel happy and that's okay. Yet, because we believe we should be happy all the time we do things like eat and drink and Netflix to avoid those negative emotions. Then guess what happens? We feel bad that we felt bad and we feel bad that we did the avoidance behavior. So now, we're feeling bad about feeling bad about feeling bad. It's a vicious cycle.
Everything in your home should follow the fork’s example. If you find a fork in the bathroom you immediately know it’s in the wrong place. And you immediately know where it’s supposed to be. In fact, everyone in your home would know the fork is out of place. If everything in your home had a place to live like that, you would find it so much easier to keep your home together and stop chasing your tail.
Yes, that urge for cupcakes, for chips, for pizza is STRONG. Resisting it seems impossible. The good news & the bad news is that there are reasons. So, when you see the donut dopamine floods your brain. Dopamine is the hormone released when you anticipate a reward. You anticipate the sweet, sugary, soft goodness of that donut. The tricky thing with dopamine is that it's stupid. Well, it's not smart at least. It thinks the reward is sustenance since that's what your brain is programmed for. So, in dopamine's mind, that donut is full of life-sustaining calories that taste way too good to be true. But you know better, don't you? You know that as soon as you eat one (or two) donuts you probably don't feel very rewarded at all.
Self care is often proselytized about as bubble baths and manicures. Those definitions work to a certain extent. Really, though, self care is taking care of yourself. The deep work of self care is taking care of yourself by doing the things that you fight resistance about. Between you and any goal or ideal version … Continue reading Real Self Care
We're also going to practice the idea of curiosity over criticism. If you're constantly criticizing yourself and asking bad questions, you're keeping yourself in a negative loop that will not allow you to get the results you seek. You cannot get a positive result from a negative method. If your method is negative, you will continue to produce negative results in your life. If instead, you choose to be kind, curious and compassionate with yourself, you will give yourself the space you need to answer your questions and solve your problems. So, let's look at a few more examples of questions.
My clients have major issues with laundry. My friends have major issues with laundry. Almost everyone I know except myself and my mom suffers from lingering laundry syndrome. What is lingering laundry syndrome? LLS is a condition of perpetual laundry. It's where laundry always lingers around. There is always some form of laundry task beckoning you. … Continue reading Lingering Laundry Syndrome (LLS)
I bet you read that headline like Eeyore: Yeah, it's Monday. Again. But I wrote it like Yay! It's Monday again!!! You see, I love Mondays. They're a chance to reset. They're a chance to get it right! The weekends can sometimes mean doing things that weren't on the plan we have to become the … Continue reading It’s Monday Again
I am so pumped! Today I purchased a ticket for a business conference I've been wanting to go to for some time now. I was so excited! It made me think back to the other times I've invested in ME. Every. Single. Time. I've. Invested. In. Myself. It's. Been. Worth. It. Examples are a really … Continue reading Which way are you heading?