And that reality is harsh. I see many women lacking the self worth to set proper boundaries. They are showing their family love by doing everything for them. But they aren't showing themselves any love. While that seems saintly and selfless, it ends up giving society women who are unhappy, stressed, anxious, tired, sick, mean, in need of rehab or wanting a divorce. No, really. Boundaries are a tough part of adulting, especially since we've probably jacked them up to begin with. But we can change and so can they.
Somewhere along the road, I apparently adopted the idea that being a married, adult woman with three kids meant I wasn't allowed to do things I like to do. I know that sounds crazy and younger me needed therapy. But I bent my will so hard for everyone else, I rarely did just what I wanted to do in my late 20s and earlier 30s.
You know the golden rule? Treat others the way you want to be treated. I'd like to apply that today to our kids and their "clean" rooms. You know what I mean, when they've "cleaned" them but they are so not clean. That's frustrating and it wastes a lot of time, doesn't it? Not to mention … Continue reading Take the frustration out of clean rooms
How do you do laundry enthusiastically? I mean really. The secret is to keeping your "spiritual fervor" up, as another translation spells it out. I think if you can find inner peace, inner joy, then you see laundry differently. It takes some serious work, it's not "natural" but it can happen. Part of my problem, … Continue reading Enthusiastically
We've been listening to Dave Ramsey for a while now but we really JUST started following the program recently. Like any other life improvement skills you learn, I think it's natural to want to teach your children. I want to launch my kiddos into the world PREPARED for awesomeness. I was taught the value of … Continue reading Teaching kids to win with $
I have convinced myself that all household chores take five minutes. It may or may not be true. However, if I say it's only going to take five minutes, my lazy butt is less likely to make excuses not to do any given chore. So, laundry takes five minutes. Dishes take five minutes. And, here, … Continue reading Clean microwave in 10 minutes