Lean into the hard

Let’s flashback to November 2015. I was 8 months pregnant. I knew my husband was leaving for a year in two months. I’d accepted my fate, in my mind, with a sort of honorable stoicism.

Imagine my surprise when I was in church for a sermon called “Surviving vs. Thriving.” The remember the graphic from the series well. It was a tree that had two sides. On one side, the tree was dead. It had no leaves, showed no signs of life. On the other, the tree was thirving. It was growing, vibrant with new leaves.

That tree hit home. You see, I’d given up on the next year already. I figured we’d claw through, the three kids and I, but it wouldn’t be anything special. It would be a dead season. This sermon reminded me that I’m only promised a few years, and precious fewer with my kids at home. At that moment, I made up my mind that we would grow and thrive just like the right side of that tree.

Fast forward a month and I had a new baby. My parents had to rush over after my Grandma’s round of chemo ended to be with me since my husband was out of town. Then they left to go help another one of my grandparents whose health was failing.

Fast forward another month and my husband was gone, I had three kiddos (one brand new) and I’d lost one grandparent. I looked around and realized that it was up to me. For the first time, I realized I was truly on my own. I’ve been clinically diagnosed with depression and anxiety so I knew if I gave into despair it wouldn’t end well.

This was the moment. The moment I really decided to put my big girl panties on. I decided the hard work that lay in front of me was mine and mine alone. I was going to have to tackle each hurdle. I could no longer look the other way or hope something would change or that some day I’d feel motivated.

I decided to live on a budget and cut my credit cards up. I decided to finally lose the weight. I decided to try a brand new approach for my threenager so I could be the parent I wanted to be, not the yelling, frustrated mess I was. I decided to get my home in complete order. I decided to reset my relationship boundaries.

So many things. I decided. They were all hard. They were all separate battles I took head on. With each little win, I did develop confidence for the next one. I did figure out I could solve my own problems and I could overcome.

I leaned into the hard. I decided to stop pushing away discomfort or pain. Eventually I realized those things would lead me to great reward and great growth. It’s kind of like a workout. During the workout, it’s a lot of work, a lot of energy expended. But the result is totally worth it, both immediate and long term. It did take a lot of work and a lot of mental change, but the process made me a better person daily and when I got “final” results.

After I went through those battles, I decided to start helping other women do the same. I realized that the same problems I’d had was what they were facing too. I realized that we all needed a healthy dose of Put Your Big Girl Panties On. It didn’t matter the woman, the circumstances, the lifestyle, the income…we’re all fighting the same battles. So, I wrote a book about them.

If you’re interested, please head on over to Amazon to purchase a copy. I’ve walked step by step through these different areas and how to Put Your Big Girl Panties On.

Monday Motivational: Be the you you want to be

I have a Monday uniform: fun, bright socks, my favorite shorts and a tank. It’s the way I prevent a case of the Mondays.


On Monday, I want to be happy and excited about all the opportunities and challenges that are coming, so I dress that way. Now, the shirt says one of my favorite quotes and it’s a really goo reminder on a Monday:

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Make muscles, not excuses. As in, don’t make excuses, go make some muscles instead. It’s empowering in that we have control. As soon as we lose our excuses, we find our results. What’s great about Monday is it’s a brand new opportunity to be who we want to be. To be how we want to be. To do the things we want to do.

Today, if you want to be the kind of mom that doesn’t yell at your kids, you can be that. Make it a point to see things as a teachable moment or make more buffer times in your schedules, but don’t make excuses.

If you want to be the kind of person who works out every day, you can do that. Make time in your schedule, at least 10 minutes, and workout, but don’t make excuses.

Today, if you want to be the kind of person who has a clutter free home, you can do that. Make one room or one drawer the way you want it, but don’t make excuses.

Make muscles, not excuses. Take action, trash excuses.

If you want help in making these things happen, that’s what I’m here for. Let’s work together!

One simple rule to get & stay clutter free

Look around and see what things are making your home see cluttered. Most likely it’s stuff that just hasn’t been put away. If you can figure out how to get that stuff put away, you can figure out how be rid of clutter once and for all!!

Stuff often doesn’t get put away based on two simple reasons:

  1. Laziness.
  2. It doesn’t have a home.

The first reason can be combatted!! And not just with disciple. The secret, in part is to make things really easy to put away. Beyond that, there is one REALLY CLEAR winner to conquer clutter once and for all in the home:

Make sure everything has a home.

It sounds simple. And it is. As usual though, simple doesn’t make it easy!

Most things that are out of place or cluttering up surfaces and chairs simply don’t have a clearly defined home.

Think about the forks in your home. They have a clearly defined home. And they probably are put away consistently. Everything in your home can be like the fork! And then, bam! Clutter free!

Finding a home for everything can often be accompanied with another problem: there’s not enough room for everything! Things are homeless because you’re fresh out of homes.

Guess what the best way to combat that is? Have less stuff!! What! This technique (read, not actually a technique) is brilliant! Have less stuff. Mind blowing.

Guess what that technique also helps combat? The aforementioned mentioned laziness!

When you have less stuff to put away and everything has a home, you’ll find you can make clutter be gone once and for all!

*My Home Detox course is an excellent way to get the mindset shift AND the coaching you need to make the peaceful, well-ordered home you desire! I also offer 1-1 coaching as you work toward your ideal home. Enter your email below for more information!