That's it! My prayer time does take a few minutes, but a bit of that is me getting distracted and refocussing. These simple prayers have been a huge gamer changer! You can see why, right? Because they're focussed on what I can control: Asking God to intervene on their behalf and asking Him to help ME see and BE the mom they uniquely need. By focussing on what I can control and allowing God to lead the way, I have a recipe for success. Apparently. I'm still reeling from Zach doing the dishes without being told.
There are very often things you can do to change a situation. It does require big girl panties, sure. But I think it's empowering to know we aren't out of options except whining. No, we can choose to take action. We are powerful. The trick here is to let go of what you can't control. And certainly to stop whining about it. Instead, focus that energy on what you actually can do and let the rest go.