Instead, we can choose, with a lot of effort, to turn our minds over to a new tenant: Positive Pam. The way to do that is simply to start focussing on the positive in any given situation. Then, watch it multiply.
There are very often things you can do to change a situation. It does require big girl panties, sure. But I think it's empowering to know we aren't out of options except whining. No, we can choose to take action. We are powerful. The trick here is to let go of what you can't control. And certainly to stop whining about it. Instead, focus that energy on what you actually can do and let the rest go.