I’m a homemaker, not a maid.

And that reality is harsh. I see many women lacking the self worth to set proper boundaries. They are showing their family love by doing everything for them. But they aren't showing themselves any love. While that seems saintly and selfless, it ends up giving society women who are unhappy, stressed, anxious, tired, sick, mean, in need of rehab or wanting a divorce. No, really. Boundaries are a tough part of adulting, especially since we've probably jacked them up to begin with. But we can change and so can they.

5 Elements of Harmony (for women married w/ kids)

Somewhere along the road, I apparently adopted the idea that being a married, adult woman with three kids meant I wasn't allowed to do things I like to do. I know that sounds crazy and younger me needed therapy. But I bent my will so hard for everyone else, I rarely did just what I wanted to do in my late 20s and earlier 30s.

Righteously angry for moms

Some things get me really worked up. Like the government still telling people dairy is a necessary component of their diet. In this case, I'm worked up because I see confirmation of what I already know: moms are sad, lonely, stressed out and unhappy. I 100% feel it's my duty to change that in whatever … Continue reading Righteously angry for moms

The Magical solution to laundry

Laundry is the bane of every mother's existence, isn't it? It might be the bane of every adult's existence. Perhaps the most infuriating thing about laundry is that it's never done. Even as you fold and put away the last item from the dryer (because that happens so often), you still have dirty clothes--the ones … Continue reading The Magical solution to laundry

Home is where the health is

Last summer I attended a health and fitness conference and I was blown away by the simplicity of the phrase that is my headline today. The speaker was talking about how the home is the center of health, which is absolutely true, in many ways.  I remember thinking about it quite a bit as I … Continue reading Home is where the health is

Enthusiastically

How do you do laundry enthusiastically? I mean really. The secret is to keeping your "spiritual fervor" up, as another translation spells it out. I think if you can find inner peace, inner joy, then you see laundry differently. It takes some serious work, it's not "natural" but it can happen. Part of my problem, … Continue reading Enthusiastically

Stay at home mommin’ (schedule)

When I became a stay at home mom it was kind of drastic life change. I had just passed over a year of being separated from the Air Force-you know, only by personal commitment. I was still a "dependent." That break up finally allowed my husband to get orders out of Texas to…ALASKA!! We got … Continue reading Stay at home mommin’ (schedule)